Learn! Learn through life — and the greatest lesson is that you don’t see reality as it is. You project on it, and when you project, you are bound to become frustrated sooner or later, because the reality cannot adjust to your projection. How can the reality adjust to your projection? Who are you? You have to adjust to reality, reality has not to adjust to your projection. That’s why you are in misery — because you feel every time that something goes wrong. Nothing goes wrong. You start with a dream and the reality doesn’t believe in your dream — that’s all. How can you force reality to adjust to your dream?
I see a door in the wall — my dream, and then I start walking through it — I am hurt. Not that the wall is there to hurt me; the wall is absolutely unconcerned. If I see a door in the wall, I will be hurt because the wall is not going to concede to my dream.
Reality is vast; it is the Whole. You are just a part and you will only become mature when you stop making this absurd effort. And this is what I call SANNYAS — a man, a woman who has come to realize: The reality cannot adjust to my dreams, so I will adjust to reality. Immediately, a revolution happens.
You are childish if you go on trying again and again to make reality adjust to your demands, dreams, desires — to you. Who are you? But this fallacious notion comes up.
When a child is born the mother is the only reality. He is in contact only with the mother and every desire is fulfilled: he is hungry and mother gives him milk; he is thirsty and water is given; he is feeling wet, the clothes are changed; he is not feeling warm, a blanket is put over him — everything is fulfilled. And every child is a dreamer, has to be. The child starts feeling as if he is the center of the world — he is here to demand and the world is there to fulfill. If you continue to try it, you remain a child.
I see people not growing at all. They reach their graves but in fact they have remained in their cradles, still playing with toys, still dreaming. Then they weep and cry because the reality doesn’t bother about them; they feel frustrated, they feel aggressive, they feel that everywhere something is going wrong and against them — as if the reality is the enemy.
It is neither enemy nor friend — it is neither. If you are aware, it becomes your friend; if you are unaware, it proves to be your enemy. In itself it is neither. Reality has no prejudice about you, as a friend or an enemy. Reality simply exists there in all its purity. It is up to you.
If you start fighting with it, it becomes your enemy; if you start adjusting to it, if you start accepting it, if you start flowing with it — not upstream, but wherever it leads — if you simply leave yourself to it, it becomes your friend. That is trust; that is SHRADDHA, faith.